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The nine types of people you meet when you come out as asexual

anagnori:

1. The unbeliever

  • “You’re just a late bloomer.”
  • “You’ll grow out of it.”
  • “You’re just saying that because you can’t get laid.”
  • “No way, you’re a man, men aren’t like that.”
  • “You’re just playing hard to get.”
  • “You just want attention.”
  • “You’re just trying to seem special/different/trendy.”
  • “No way, you’ve had sex before, you’re not asexual.”
  • “You must be faking it because natural selection wouldn’t allow asexuality to persist.”

2. The unwanted sympathizer

  • “I feel sorry for you.”
  • “Wow, that sucks.”
  • “You don’t know what you’re missing.”
  • “I can’t imagine a life without sex!”
  • “Your life must be so empty/lonely/pointless.”
  • “Aww, but I’m sure you’ll find someone who wants to date you!”
  • “You just haven’t met the right person yet.”

3. The intrusive questioner

  • “Do you masturbate?”
  • “What do your genitals look like?”
  • “Don’t you ever get horny?”
  • “What happens when you have a sex dream?”
  • “Is it because of your religion?”
  • “Do you have something wrong with your genitals?”
  • “Did somebody hurt you?”
  • “Were you sexually abused or something?”
  • “Did you get raped?”

4. The asshole questioner

  • “Do you reproduce by budding?”
  • “Do you still think [opposite sex] have cooties?”
  • “So are you in love with yourself?”
  • “Are you attracted to animals?”
  • “But everybody likes sex, what’s wrong with you?”

5. The unnecessary therapist

  • “Have you tried having your hormones checked?”
  • “You’re just afraid to get close to people.”
  • “You’re in denial about being gay.”
  • “You’re not asexual, you’re just shy/frigid/repressed.”
  • “You must be a psychopath.”
  • “You probably have [insert mental disorder here].”
  • “You should seek therapy.”
  • “Have you tried Viagra?”
  • “Do you think you’re not worthy of being loved?”
  • “But what if you change your mind some day?”
  • “You should keep an open mind in case you meet somebody special.”
  • “You’re afraid of sex/intimacy/falling in love.”
  • “If you don’t like sex then you must not have been doing it right.”
  • “How can you know you don’t want it if you’ve never tried it?”

6. The progressive who gets upset without having a clue what you’re talking about

  • “Stop slut-shaming people!”
  • “You’re being homophobic.”
  • “You’re appropriating the struggles of REAL queer people.”
  • “Since when have you ever been oppressed for NOT having sex?”
  • “That’s not a real sexual orientation.”
  • “What, do you think you’re better than me for not having sex?”
  • “You’re repressed, you need to be sexually liberated.”

7. The conservative who gets upset without having a clue what you’re talking about

  • “All women are like that.”
  • “You’re being selfish by not getting married.”
  • “If you don’t procreate, your life is pointless.”
  • “Not having sex is unnatural.”
  • “You’re sinning against God.”
  • “You have a duty to your parents/ancestors to give them grandchildren.”

8. The creep

  • “You just need to get laid.”
  • “I can change your mind.”
  • “I’m Robin Thicke.”
  • “Someone should just force you to have sex so you’ll realize you like it.”

9. The actually decent person

  • “You’re asexual? Okay, cool. Have you seen my keys, by the way?”
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Giant List of Asexuality and Aromantic Blogs

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house-of-ace:

Since Asexual Awareness Week is coming up, I figured I’d make a rebloggable version of this blog’s links page for those who want to find new blogs to suggest to people!

Notes:

  • Included on this list are: Asexuality Tumblrs, Aromantic Tumblrs, Advice Tumblrs, Non-Tumblr Sites and Useful Links!
  • If you know any other blogs, sites, or other links that aren’t on here, let me know, and I’ll be sure to add it! Also, if you run one of these blogs and I’ve messed something up, let me know and I’ll fix it for you.
  • Please assume that on this list, the words ‘asexual’ and ‘aromantic’ stand for asexual-spectrum and aromantic-spectrum respectively, unless otherwise indicated.
  • This post doesn’t always update itself when reblogged for some reason. You can always find the most up-to-date rebloggable version here and the permanent version here!

Asexuality Tumblr Blogs

Aromantic Tumblr Blogs

Tumblr Blogs That Offer Advice (both aromantic and asexuality blogs listed)
many also post other things in addition to advice and have useful lists of resources, links and faqs!

Non-Tumblr Sites (both aromantic and asexuality sites listed)

  • Acebook: an asexual dating and social networking site!
  • Ace Fet: a forum for asexual and aromantic fetishists. Also has a tumblr.
  • ace_fic: a livejournal asexuality fanfiction comm!
  • Ace Ideas: a youtube vlogging channel about asexuality! also has a tumblr.
  • Acetronauts: a youtube vlogging channel about asexuality! They also have a tumblr.
  • are:UK: a UK organization for asexuality education, media representation and providing resources. Also has a tumblr.
  • Arocalypse: an aromantic forum! They also have a tumblr here.
  • Aroplane: a forum for aromantic-spectrum people!
  • Aromantic Asexuals: a forum for aro aces!
  • Asexualitic: an asexual dating site!
  • The Asexual Agenda: a blog which promotes asexual blogs, shares links and discusses a deeper wide variety of asexual-related concepts. Also the home of the monthly Carnival of Aces!
  • Asexual Archive: another very comprehensive blog about ‘all things ace’!
  • Asexual Awareness Week: the official website for Asexual Awareness Week! They also have a tumblr!
  • Asexual Explorations: a site which promotes the academic study of asexuality! It provides many good links and resources to this end.
  • Asexual Groups: a reference blog to find asexuality meet-ups and communities!
  • Asexuality Meetup: list of asexuality meetups!
  • Asexual News: a site for asexuality news and opinions. Includes a huge list of links and resources, and also merchandise.
  • The Asexual Stories Project: a place for any asexual-spectrum person to submit their stories about their experiences with any aspect of their asexuality!
  • AVEN: probably the best-known asexual site on the Internet. I’ve heard some not-so-great things about the forums, but the rest of the site has a large list of links, news, a wiki and other things to check out! They also have a tumblr.
  • Card House: an asexuality forum!
  • Demisexuality.org: a website all about demisexuality! (with a very useful links page!)
  • Kik Messenger group: not really a site per se, but directions for how to join a Kik Messenger network/group for asexuals who would like to chat! According to the post: “Kik Messenger is a free anonymous messaging app that is available on multiple smartphone platforms.”
  • New England Asexuals: website for the New England Asexuals!
  • Partnership for Asexual Visibility and Education: an organization focusing on asexual activism!

Other Useful Links

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